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7 August 一年容易又秋风“一年容易又秋风”,时光流逝得真快啊!春刚去,秋已至。 今天是二十四节气的立秋,风开始有点凉了,而且风向也开始变了,平日在办公室里的位置是吹不到风的,而今天却是凉风扑面,凉意顿生。赶快关了窗,坐回电脑前却有了几分惆怅,生出了些许感慨韶华易逝的忧郁。在这样的时代忧郁也是奢侈的事情,整天忙得天昏地暗,只是觉得睡不够,哪里还有闲情雅趣学着古时文人感怀悲秋,于是,对于自己这一秒钟竟能生发出点蓝色调调感到无比讶异,难道我真的老了么? 21 July 【转】我们其实无法预测未来是什么使得我们幸福 “我们其实无法预测未来是什么使得我们幸福” 我们对未来的想法犯了错误的概念已经被Gilbert和Wilson命名为“错误想法”(miswanting)。 他们的一系列的研究已经发现:我们预测在未来什么让我们更快乐方面的能力很弱。 我最喜欢的一个简单实验:两组被试都参加这个实验, 他们会得到免费的三明治,这对大学生来说绝对是一个好东西。 其中一组预先选择这一周他们所需要的三明治;另一组每天选择他们所需要的三明治。 一个令人不可思议的事情发生了。 那些每天选择三明治的被试每天午饭时都选择同样的三明治, 并且这些被试对他们的选择做出了合理的高兴程度。 可是,令人惊奇的是,那些预先设想下一周午餐的被试选择却是多变的。 他们周一选择火鸡三明治,周二选择金枪鱼三明治,星期三选择鸡蛋三明治等。 但是随着下一周时间的到来,他们大多不喜欢他们以为自己应该有的变化。 事实上,他们与每天选择的被试相比,显得更不高兴,并表现出了显著差异。 “如果我们知道我们的未来,我们都是如此的不快乐。” 这种“多样性”与“同一性”只是人们在预测未来情绪状态时表现出来的一种特殊偏差。 这里有另一个积极心理学所做的“违反直觉的偏差”。 主要是观察:当人们在生活中遭遇灾难性的坏事,或者幻想性的积极事件,人们如何预测他们的感觉。 比如:如果你中了彩票你感觉有多好?绝大部分人预测他们的生活将完全改变,并且自己活得更快乐。 而研究的结论是什么呢?是的,当人们刚刚发现自己中了彩票之后确实很高兴, 但6个月之后,高兴的水平却回到了人生的“基线”水平。 可笑的是,在这崇高的旅程中,不管是预测我们中彩票后的感受,还是预测我们中午吃什么三明治时, 如果我们知道我们的未来,我们都是如此的不快乐。 所以,当我们都不能够预测我们下周将要吃什么样的三明治的时候, 我们如何能够预测在未来的20年我们将要做什么类型的工作? 随着年龄的变大,我们偶尔会变得更智慧。 随着我们的学习,不管是未知的还是已知的,我们都不擅长预测我们的未来。 我们开始认识到这一点也不比我们曾经的想法更科学。 “人们开始明白未来包含着如此少的可确定因素…” 这就是说你的未来对你而言本身就是一个陌生人。 所以,你知道,同样的,那就是为什么一个18岁的年轻人很难选择他的职业。 但是对于一个中年人而言,当他的所学很有限时,所遭遇的就是严厉谴责的目光。 这好像是说明人越老越谨慎的另一个原因,但远不是这样的。 更准确的说,谨慎并不是随着年龄而增长的,而是受自知之明的暗示。 人们开始明白未来包含许多难以察觉的不确定事件,甚至包括那些看起来已经在我们控制之下的事情, 就像我们选择三明治一样。 最强的猜测打败最谨慎的计划 对于“错误想法”的争论已经应用到我们生活中的任何领域,包括对我们未来进行预测。 职业规划已经变成一种痛苦的事情,因为这是如此重要的一个决定, 而且我们要通过掌握的非常有限的有用信息来理解它。 最好的职业规划的策略是这样的:尽你的所能来猜测,试验它,当你不喜欢它时请不要惊讶。 但是,请无论如何不要在面试中提及这些。 原文链接: http://www.xfilm.com.cn/article.asp?id=524 英文链接: http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/01/why-career-planning-is-time-wasted.php Why Career Planning Is Time WastedOur culture worships planning. Everything must be planned in advance. Our days, week, years, our entire lives. We have diaries, schedules, checklists, targets, goals, aims, strategies, visions even. Career planning is the most insidious of these cults precisely because it encourages a feeling of control over your reactions to future events. As that interview question goes: where do you see yourself in five years time? This invites the beginning of what starts as a little game and finishes as a belief built on sand. You guess what employers want to hear, and then you give it to them. Sometimes this batting back and forth of imagined futures becomes a necessary little game you play in order to 'get ahead'.
"We want to make a decision all of our own, based on our own values and preferences."
In reality, people frequently don't know what they want and psychology has proved it. That's why career planning, or at the very least just deciding what you're going to do next, is so unpleasant. It's no fun at 18 years old when people ask what you want to do. There seem to be so many different options, each with myriad branching possibilities, many of which lead in opposite directions, but all equally tempting. Surrounded by these endless spiralling futures, it is no wonder that many a school-leaver sticks with what they know and follows in parental footsteps. But we don't all want to trust the tried and tested, whether for good reasons or bad. We want to make a decision all of our own, based on our own values and preferences. Midlife crisis Everyone has their own internal trade-offs. How much routine do you like: boring but safe? How much do you like travel: exciting but you'll be away from loved ones? How much do you care about earning more money: and taking a more boring/stressful/less fulfilling job? Whatever the outcome of all these swings and roundabouts along with many more, the reason that deciding what to do with your life is so difficult is that it involves predicting the future. There's many reasons why it seems we should be good at prediction what we want. If I know that I'm enjoying what I'm doing now, then I should enjoy it in the future shouldn't I? On top of this I've got years of experience building up a set of things I like - cinema, books, sitcoms - and things I don't like - trips to the dentist, severe embarrassment and flu, especially not all at the same time. If I've got this huge bank of likes and dislikes it should be easy to predict my wants in the future. And yet, it seems we are often surprised by what the future throws at us. Miswanting "We are poor at predicting what will make us happy in the future."
The idea of making mistakes about what we might want in the future has been termed 'miswanting' by Gilbert and Wilson (2000). They point to a range of studies finding we are poor at predicting what will make us happy in the future. My favourite is a simple experiment in which two groups of participants get free sandwiches if they participate in the experiment - a doozie for any undergraduate. One group has to choose which sandwiches they want for an entire week in advance. The other group gets to choose which they want each day. A fascinating thing happens. People who choose their favourite sandwich each day at lunchtime also often choose the same sandwich. This group turns out to be reasonably happy with its choice. Amazingly, though, people choosing in advance assume that what they'll want for lunch next week is a variety. And so they choose a turkey sandwich Monday, tuna on Tuesday, egg on Wednesday and so on. It turn out that when next week rolls around they generally don't like the variety they thought they would. In fact they are significantly less happy with their choices than the group who chose their sandwiches on the day. Prediction failure So, in the journey from the sublime - predicting how we'll feel about winning the lottery - to the ridiculous - predicting which sandwiches we'll want for lunch - we are incredibly bad at knowing our future selves. And if we can't even decide what type of sandwich we might like next week, how can we possibly decide what type of job we'd like to be doing in twenty years? With age occasionally comes wisdom. Over time we learn, whether implicitly or explicitly, that we are not that good at predicting the future. At the very least we begin to recognise it is a much less precise science than we once thought. A stranger future "People begin to understand that the future holds vanishingly few certainties..."
This might seem like just another way of saying that people get more cautious as they get older, but it is more than that. It's actually saying that it's not caution that's increasing with age, but implicit self-knowledge. People begin to understand that the future holds vanishingly few certainties, even for those things that would seem to be under our most direct control, like our sandwich preferences. Best guess beats careful planning The best strategy for career planning is this: make your best guess, try it out and don't be surprised if you don't like it. But for heaven's sake don't mention this in your interviews. [Also see the aptly named 'chaos theory' of career planning that I've noted before.] 14 February About Frente开始喜欢Frente,找了些资料,知道这是一支澳大利亚乐队,成立于1989年,主唱Angie Hart,嗓音清纯如baby,曲调清新慵懒,与Mazzy Star有些类似,但比Mazzy Star更阳光,《滚石》杂志称其为“颠覆传统流行美感的小女孩嗓音”。 Frente是一个西班牙文的名字,即英 文“Front”的意思。 乐队初组时有成员4人:Vocals—Angie Hart, Vocals—Simon Austin, guitars —Tim O Connor,Bass—Mark Picton —Drums,在1992年,他们在家乡澳洲推出首张专辑《Marvin The Album》,一炮而红,随即开始国外的巡回演出。迅速走红也带来了巨大的压力,在巡回演唱后,Tim和Mark离开Frente,而Angie和Simon也处于情绪低谷,甚至一度想解散Frente。 在沉寂了一段日子后,Angie和Simon重新振作,找来了新队员Bill McDonald和Alastair Barden,并在1996年推出第二张唱片《Shape》。为宣传《Shape》Frente开始了第二次巡演,但此次巡演再次导致了乐队的分歧,最终乐队于1998年宣布解散。 主唱Angie Hart的网站——http://www.angie-hart.com./ |
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蓝白红的门很窄,但窗子很大,几乎有两扇门的宽度,而且顶天立地。坐在窗旁的位置,可以看见大大小小的窗框把外面的人和物划分在一幅幅画面里。外面的桌子有四张,两张在台阶上,另两张摆在了街边,都已经是高朋满座了。还没入夏,昆明的夜晚已经没了凉意,坐在街边喝啤酒聊天很是惬意,
在我正前方的两桌都是开心一族,他们前仰后合的身影从一个窗框不时进入另一个窗框,夹杂着嘻嘻哈哈的伴音和偶尔亮起的相机闪光。是的,快乐时光应当记录,因为快乐是很容易被淡忘的。然后快乐的一桌从画面里离开,很快又有新人补上。抬头看着高处窗框里依然没有发出绿芽的枯枝,那交错扭曲的画面又是另一种意味。这些景象在眼前游走,渐渐的有些像看老电影,开始有种恍恍惚惚的感觉。十点钟的夜,正是灯火迷丽的时候,这个时候太清醒的话实在是有些可耻。
我和Yuan偶尔说上几句话,多数时候都在看着窗格里上演的热闹画面,懒懒的发呆。但是可耻的我还是保持了清醒,忽然想起当我们看着窗外的时候,屋里的人也正看着发呆的我们,随后目光又越过我们看向窗外。其实每个人都是别人的景物,由此有了相互娱乐的效果,这就是热闹的好处,混迹其间自然不会感到孤独。
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